They say there are two certainties in life and those are death and taxes, both of which drive different negative emotions. For now, we are going to focus on the very real and hard emotion that is grief, which is experienced after the death of a loved one. Grief is a way for our bodies and minds to make sense of the loss of the person who has had such an important impact on our life and time is the key factor to help us move through it. Sometimes though we might find it hard to cope or adjust and this is when you can consider grief counselling.
When to Get Grief Counselling
Grief counselling also known as bereavement counselling, should be sought if you are having trouble grieving or when you find, that due to a death, you are now unable to function normally such as getting through routine daily activities e.g. going to work. Other things to look out for is if sudden problems in your relationships arise and/or you find yourself isolating yourself and having feelings of guilt or depression.
Your life does not necessarily have to be falling apart, you also might just find yourself wanting to understand the process of grief and going to a support group or counsellor can be very valuable in helping you adjust in the long run.
What is Grief Counselling?
The purpose of grief counselling is to help you mourn. It is often said that if you do not deal with negative emotions, that it will manifest somewhere down the line in the form of illness, which is why it is so important to process your feelings. With grief counselling, you can get the support you’ll need, and it will give you the tools to help you process your grief. It is believed there are 5 stages of grief, each person responds to each stage differently and you might not even realise you have worked through some of the stages, while other might take years to come to terms with. The different stages of grief are Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and finally Acceptance.
Ultimately, bereavement counselling can help you find your coping mechanism and it also helps you deal with the emotional separation and correct channelling of your emotions, so that you can adjust and move forward in a world without your loved one.
Does Grief Counselling Help?
The short answer, yes. It is important to take the time to do grief counselling as grieving is a normal, healthy process. Being able to work through your emotions, you will find it much easier to honour and cherish the memories of a loved one and ensure that you are able to move on and live a happier and hopefully a more meaningful life yourself.
If you choose to join a support group or have regular talks with a family member or friend or choose to meet with a trained grief counsellor, make that investment in yourself as you will need to face death more than once in your lifetime, and being able to cope and maybe help someone else one day with their grief, helps everyone having to deal with such a traumatic experience that is the death of a loved one.